Life Tips
Anxiety is something most of us have experienced at some point in our lives. It's that feeling of your heart racing, feeling paralyzed, and having a rush of thoughts that you can't keep track of. These are common symptoms, and they often stem from various experiences we've had over time.
Childhood experiences, like witnessing our parents or loved ones react stressfully to situations, can plant the seeds of anxiety in us. Also, how stress is handled in our homes, by people around us, and even in the media, contributes to this. When we're surrounded by constant stress and negativity, it gradually builds up inside us without us even realizing it, until one day, we have our first anxiety episode.
Our brains learn from repetition, so the more we're exposed to stressful situations and responses, the more ingrained anxiety becomes in us. Our habit of constantly thinking about future scenarios and worrying about what might happen is also a big trigger for anxiety.
One helpful technique for managing anxiety is to breathe slowly and gently tap your heart with your right palm while reassuring yourself either aloud or in your mind. You can say things like, "It's okay, we're safe, there's nothing to worry about, I love you," repeatedly until you start to feel calm and safe again. Remember, the brain learns through repetition, so the more you practice calming yourself down in the midst of anxiety, the more effective it becomes over time.
Eventually, you'll find that you experience fewer anxiety episodes, and calming yourself down will become second nature. It's a process, but with patience and practice, you can learn to manage your anxiety better and live a more peaceful life.
Remember, "The Body follows the Mind."
One simple way to disconnect from your workday when you arrive home and want to enjoy peace of mind is this: When you unlock your door and enter your house, greet the place you live. After you greet your family, roommates, animals, and don't forget about the plants (yes, plants are good for your home, they keep things lively even when you're away, like purifying the air).
Next, take a quick shower. This is where you begin the process of disconnecting from your workday. While showering, say to yourself aloud, "Now I take off everything related to work." Repeat this several times. Before you exit the shower, spend about 5 seconds under slightly colder or hotter water, just enough to relax you. During these 5 seconds, say to yourself, "Now I'm at home and filling myself with peace and love." Repeat this phrase as well.
I recommend doing this in the shower because it helps clean not only the outside of you but also clears your mind. Initially, work-related thoughts may still come to mind, even after your shower. For any thought that pops up, remind yourself aloud or in your mind that you are not at work anymore. You can say, "Get out of my mind, I'll take care of you tomorrow or......... when you have to!"
The more you practice this routine, the easier it becomes. Remember, change takes time, but you can do it too! Now, continue your day by washing dishes, relaxing, cooking, going to the gym, meeting friends, watching a movie, reading a book, or taking care of personal matters. Enjoy your time!
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Remember, "The Body follows the Mind."
Upgrade, level up, growing, tune-up – this topic is about you and how to realize every single step in your personal development.
Let's talk about something we've all experienced: situations where we made decisions and took actions in a certain way to get what we wanted. Perhaps we said or did something that, in hindsight, wasn't the best choice. It could have been hours, days, weeks, or even years ago. Even if we were totally honest at the time, now we see that we could have done better, right?
"Of course! Now you can do better." And here is the moment when you realize that you have to upgrade, level up, grow, and tune up in your personal development. Learn from yourself and don't be too hard on yourself when you experience these situations. Be happy and stay on your toes so you don't make the same mistake twice! And the most important thing is to appreciate that you have to upgrade, level up, grow, and tune up.
It's okay to admit that. Take a moment to be happy that you've learned and grown. If you can, spend some time alone at home without any distractions, just you and your thoughts. Reflect on how far you've come and smile!
Give yourself a few minutes of quiet without any TV, phone, tablet, laptop, music...just pure quietness. You've done a lot in life, so you deserve some time to celebrate your progress and appreciate everything around.
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Remember, "The Body follows the Mind."
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P.S. "The more often you do it, the better you will get, and in the meantime, it also helps in building a stronger will."
Sorry?
Maybe, yes, it's important, but the "maybe" is for the fact that if it is said one time, if we do something small, but multiple times, it could start a learning process.
You will start being sorry for absolutely everything that is going on around you and eventually for who you are...
There should be a red flag where you should stop saying sorry before it becomes a habit! You are a wonderful being on Earth and part of a system where we are all connected.
It's beautiful to be alive and do things, and yes, be sorry and apologize when you do something wrong, but not for who you are!
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Love yourself every day, from the first look in the mirror, to have a lovely life.
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Remember, "The Body follows the Mind."
"Our Body, Our Temple"
We inhabit this body for a certain period, and eventually, it returns to nature.
Just as we strive for mental stability and happiness, our body seeks the same. Sometimes, through attentive listening, we uncover answers about what we need to eat to feel physically better, lighter, and experience a sense of wellness.
The first step is to purchase food in person, with the intention of nourishing our body, promoting well-being, and ensuring a healthy, fulfilling life experience. The intention is happening inside us when we say to ourselves that we are going to get food to eat for a healthy body. Simple as that! With this said, the subconscious mind is already starting to prepare the whole organism for what's coming. This way, our body already knows that something good for it is coming, and when we eat the food that we buy, the body extracts the nutrients we need to have a healthy life.
Secondly, it's really important to drink plenty of water to keep yourself hydrated. Our bodies are made up of about 60% water, so it's crucial to maintain that balance. If you're craving something other than water like juice or soda, try reaching for 1, 2, or 3 oranges instead. Oranges are about 80% water themselves and they're packed with vitamin C, which is great for your health. So, by choosing oranges, you're not only getting hydration but also a boost of vitamins at the same time! It's like a two-for-one deal for your body.
The third step is my personal opinion on breakfast. Early in the morning, provide the body with water or, even better, make some lemon water (fresh-squeezed lemon juice from 1 lemon + 1 cup water) and something easy to digest, such as a smoothie or fruits. The main breakfast should be consumed approximately 4 hours after waking up, or adjusted according to individual body type. When you wake up and eat breakfast, all that food goes into your digestive system, and it needs to start the digestion process right away. Here, I can say that it's too much effort for your organism in the morning, and it should wake up slowly. Our bodies work like our minds; when you wake up, I don't think that you would like to be questioned about random stuff and asked for an answer right away; you will definitely start to feel annoyed or have any other bad feeling that is going to ruin your morning or even the rest of your day. The same is with your body.
The fourth step is all about your main meal, which you can have either for a late lunch or for dinner. If it's after 6 p.m., I suggest going for something light like fruits or a salad without any heavy dressings. This helps your body prepare for sleep because it's easier to digest these kinds of foods. Just like with breakfast, where you want to ease into your day, having a light meal in the evening helps your body wind down and get ready for a good night's sleep.
Fifth, ensure a good night's sleep of at least 6 hours.
Remember, "The Body follows the Mind."
Meditation helps your soul and body.
Most of the meditations that you find on the internet lead you down a predetermined or general path, which may not always benefit you, and sometimes, you may end up in the wrong place. Guided meditation should be based on the individual's needs and guided accordingly. Most importantly, close any doors that were opened during the session before opening your eyes and continuing with your day.
You can meditate about anything you want, from healing your body, relationships, family, friends, work, personal development, soul retrieval, and so on. The more you do it, the better you will get, but also be careful about how often you meditate so it does not become a vice and you start meditating for basically anything.
Meditation is a technique that can help you have a better life experience, but you also need to stay connected to the real world and life itself because the journey we have in life is beautiful.
Here's an idea on how to do it: One session can be between 5 to 10 minutes at most, set an alarm clock in case you fall asleep. Reflect on situations that you experienced during the day or in the past days, or whatever comes to your mind that happened in the past and triggered you somehow.
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Before you start the session, concentrate on that situation.
Close your eyes, relax your body, and breathe calmly as if you are at peace and in a safe place. Open the door to that moment in your life, and from here on, let the spiritual world do the magic (remember YOU ARE IN CONTROL). If you fall asleep during the session, please take 1 minute to close your eyes and close any door that you opened in the beginning. Restart the meditation right away or at another time.
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Remember, "The Body follows the Mind."
If you ever have the desire to share something that is bothering you but you are shy, afraid, or unsure if you'll be judged or listened to, please, at least try to start talking about it.
If you're judged or not taken seriously, remember that you've made an effort. Move forward and find someone else to talk to. You will eventually find the support you need, but don't let others' opinions affect you. You know yourself best, and your perception of yourself is most important.
Keep seeking answers, but avoid complaining about your situation. Complaining only reinforces negative thoughts and feelings, making you feel worse.
One method you can try is meditation. Set aside 5 minutes to meditate in a quiet space, free from distractions. Close your eyes and visualize the issue. Reflect on how you got into the situation and imagine it from a detached perspective. Then, ask for guidance or what you desire to change, and allow the change to occur.
Be responsible and disciplined in this process. Be thankful for who you are and your strength to persevere. Continue with your day and allow the answers to come naturally without actively seeking them. Give yourself a break from obsessing over the answers for a few days. Avoid thoughts like "Where is the answer?" or "When will I find out?" Just let things unfold naturally.
"And guess what?"..... "What?"........ "You will have more thoughts about seeking, but when your mind starts to go 'bananas' (I say 'bananas' because if you step on a banana, you slip), so when your mind goes bananas, try to keep your mind busy. Try as hard as you can to consciously pick a subject or multiple subjects and try to control where your mind is going... all as a pro tip :)"
"By avoiding negative thoughts, you can use self-affirmations like: 'I'm on the right path, everything is going in a good direction, I'm happy!'"
Very important: do not complain!
Remember, "The Body follows the Mind."
The feeling of blame is another way of life to tell us that we are human, have feelings, and are conscious. We realize when we have done something wrong; it's a part of life, but it's also a good teacher so we don't forget the human part within us.
Here, I want to talk about 'Blaming Yourself' when something doesn't go as planned and you start having negative thoughts and feelings about yourself.
The moment you start having negative thoughts about yourself and begin blaming yourself because maybe you didn't do more, or you start thinking that others blame you, or maybe you should have done things differently, or what if I would have done it differently, or ...... Here, you need to STOP and push the emergency brake button.
Everyone experiences the feeling of blame; it's not only you. You know, we are human.
The most damaged parts are your mental health and soul, and here I can explain why:
Negative Self-Image: Continuously blaming yourself can lead to a negative self-perception, damaging your self-esteem and confidence. It can create a cycle of self-doubt and self-criticism, impacting your overall well-being.
Increased Stress and Anxiety: Constantly blaming yourself for past actions or outcomes can increase stress and anxiety levels. This can lead to heightened emotional distress, affecting your ability to focus, make decisions, and cope with challenges effectively.
Limited Problem-Solving: Instead of focusing on finding solutions or learning from mistakes, excessive self-blame can keep you stuck in a cycle of rumination and guilt. It may prevent you from objectively analyzing the situation and taking constructive steps forward.
Strained Relationships: Blaming yourself excessively may also affect your relationships with others. Constant self-criticism can make it challenging to connect with others authentically, leading to feelings of isolation or alienation.
Impact on Mental Health: Persistent self-blame can contribute to the development or exacerbation of mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. It may also contribute to feelings of hopelessness or worthlessness.
Instead of blaming yourself excessively, it's important to practice self-compassion and forgiveness. Recognize that everyone makes mistakes and experiences setbacks; it's a natural part of being human. Focus on learning from your experiences, practicing self-care, and moving forward with resilience and positivity.
"As a solution to help yourself navigate more easily through your emotions, use self-affirmations like: "I'm safe, I love myself, I'm happy." Repeat it over and over in your mind or, better yet, say it out loud. You can change the words in your self-affirmation but keep it simple.
For example:
"I'm safe, I'm happy, I love myself" - YES
"I'm good, I want to be happy, and I don't want any more thoughts about this... bla bla bla" - NO"
Remember, "The Body follows the Mind."